Alternative Wedding Toast Ideas

Alternative Wedding Toast Ideas

Alternative Wedding Toast Ideas

Any ideas to replace the clinking of the glasses. I’d like to do something a bit more original but memorable and I’ve run out of ideas! Any help would be greatly appreciated! Thanks, Sharon

Getting the bride and groom to kiss at the reception. So many choices…..
The ideas that follow come from a variety of sources, including research, newsgroups, etc. Unfortunately I’ve misplaced my source sheet and am now only left with the alternative wedding toast ideas list. I’ll reproduce that list, which is in alphabetical order for you here.

Bells to be rung whenever the guests want the bride and groom to kiss.
An idea for these is to sew or glue inexpensive Christmas bells on a thin ribbon, then sew (or glue) the ends of ribbon closed. This enables the bells to be held in between the thumb and forefinger and there are no stray ends that might injure someone. Another idea is to check the dollar store (or your favorite discount department store) for ceramic or porcelain bells with handles and place these every so often on your tables. These could then be given as gifts to special guests much like centerpieces are often given.

Bride and Groom Trivia.
Guests are asked to answer a question about the bride and groom. Whenever the question is answered correctly, they kiss. A few sample questions include: When/where did the bride and groom first meet? How long have bride and groom been together? How old was bride/groom when she/he received her/his first kiss?, etc.

Charitable Donation.
This one depends upon how well your guests would react to the idea. The guests are asked to give a donation for charity in order to get the bride and groom to kiss. The one instance in which I’ve heard of this, one person was designated as the “money-holder” and donations were in the amount of 25 cents to $5.00. There was no set amount and giving the money was voluntary. After the wedding, the donations were given to the charity in the name of the bride and groom “and guests”.

Clinking Glasses.
the traditional way to get the bride and groom to kiss. Usually this is done by tapping the glass with a fork. This may be the right option for you if you like tradition. There are drawbacks to consider though. Not only is glass fragile, but it can also be broken. If someone were to tap the glass too hard the glass might shatter–leaving a mess and possible shards that may cut other guests. Another drawback is that if the glass is filled partially with liquid and tips over when someone taps it…you are also left with a mess to clean and/or stains on clothing, tablecloth, etc.

General Trivia.
This works in the same way that Bride and Groom Trivia works, but the questions are not about the bride and groom. The questions are about whatever you want them to be…trivia about the town they are getting married in, TV trivia if the bride and groom are TV buffs, etc. Most of the time, this reflects an interest of the bride and groom. This can also be wedding trivia. For example a question such as:

Kissing Guests.
In order to get the bride and groom to kiss, the guests need to show them how it’s done. This can be a cute idea if most of the guests are couples, but leaves those that are single feeling left out.

Love Poems.
When a guest wants the bride and groom to kiss, they share (or make-up) a love poem. The poem can use the name of the bride and groom, include special memories, etc. The only limit is your imagination. There is one thing to keep in mind with this, if you would like a memory of the poems you need to make some type of provision for it. The two that come to mind are capturing the poems on video or having either the guests or someone else writing it down. Here’s an example that a reader sent:
Mary, Mary used to be quite contrary
Now she’s standing proud and tall
On this day that she did marry
Her sweetheart by the name of Paul

Love Songs.
Whenever guests want bride and groom to kiss, they have to sing a song with the word love in it. A few examples: “I will always love you” by Whitney Houston/Dolly Pardon, “You gotta love someone” by Days of Thunder, “It must have been love” from the movie Pretty Woman, etc. One note…when you mix alcohol with singing guests, it can sometimes turn into a loud shouting noise rather than the singing it’s supposed to be.

Picking from a jar.
Guests pick a slip of paper that tells them what they need to do in order to make the bride and groom kiss. Suggestions can include many of the ideas already mentioned, including answering a trivia question, singing a song with the word love in it, sharing a memory, making up a poem, etc.

Putting Green.
Bride and groom buy or rent a small putting green and guests need to get the ball in the cup in order to get the bride and groom to kiss.

Sharing a memory.
The guests share a memory about the bride and groom. This can include anything from childhood through the day that bride and groom marry. This is another idea that you might want to take steps to capture…whether in writing or on video.

Thoughts on Marriage.
The guest is asked to give their thoughts on marriage in order to get bride and groom to kiss. This can be either marriage in general or the marriage of the bride and groom in particular. Thoughts can then be gathered and put into a book. Another version is to ask for advice that makes a marriage strong.

Toasting the couple.
Each guest who wishes the bride and groom to kiss needs to toast the couple and say a small speech about the couple. The only major problem that I see with this one is that it may be time-consuming if all of the guests decide to make a long (rather than short) speech.

Wishing Box.
Guests are asked to write down a wish for the bride and groom (including their name), then drop it into a box before the bride and groom will kiss. The bride and groom then either read the wish or “save” the wish for a special time in their new marriage. For example…one wish would be read on the honeymoon, one on the first anniversary, etc.

Finally, some general thoughts and ideas on getting the bride and groom to kiss. If the bride and groom wish to have the tradition, they need to realize that their dinner may be interrupted many times due to it. One way to circumvent this is to start the ideas after dinner. Another thing to consider is that throughout the day/evening of the reception, the bride and groom will be at opposite ends of the room greeting and/or visiting other guests. One way to prevent this is for the bride and groom to greet and visit guests together. This can be a very fun tradition to have at your reception, but as with anything else, it involves planning. If you have any other alternative wedding toast ideas, please share them in the comments.


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